You’ve read that correctly.
Literally, every single thing that happens in your life, is your own fault.
Car hit you from behind? you got into your car that day, drove it, and decided to stop it where you did.
Dumped? You went out with them in the first place.
You put yourself in these positions with the decisions you have made in your life up to that point. Everything that happens to you, in your life, is down to you as an individual. And unless you see that, and own it, you will never be 100% in control of your own life.
My point is that we make excuses every single day. We look back on our childhood, past relationships, past jobs and blame them for the way in which we act. We shed the responsibility of our own actions and look for other things to pass the blame onto in order to make us feel better. I do it, I know I do it. And if you’re sitting there thinking “That’s not me, I wouldn’t do that”, straight away that indicates that you do in fact do this because you’re already wearing your kevlar shoulders. You’re already shirking the responsibility of your own actions.
Excuses are like an Asshole, we all have them and they’re full of shit.
And before you jump in the comments to defend yourself, because you think that this is a little bit harsh, and your feelings are hurt and you’re offended….. I don’t care. I really don’t fucking care and you know who else doesn’t care about your excuses? Everyone. Literally nobody cares about your excuses, or why your life isn’t going well. Nobody wants to hear it, why? because they have their own shit going on. Ever sat their when someone is chatting absolute b*llocks about why their life is so much harder than everyone else’s, and you’re thinking “fuck me, if you had any idea what is going on in my life” then that means someone else has done that to you. The only person you are making excuses for , is for yourself. You are the only one that cares about your excuses.
But rest assured; there is going to be a time in your life when something happens and you are going to have to wake up and realise that you are going to need to stop making excuses. Or, you can make that decision right here, right now and stop yourself going through the trauma of a life event that forces that thought on you.
You may be thinking right now “oh, you don’t understand, my life is really difficult, I’ve tried everything and nothing is working or improving”. So what? that is your life. Those are the cards you have been dealt and there is nothing you or anyone else can do to fix that. Those are your cards and you need to play with them. Play your cards, the best that you possibly can. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are done with excuses. Shout it, scream at yourself. Get that message in your head.
If you’re unhappy with your life, and you think your life is shit, then that is your fault. If you are happy with the way everything is going and your life is great, then that is your fault too.
Which path would you prefer to accept fault for taking?